A guide on what to say (and what not to say) to someone after they have had a miscarriage.


The right words to use during miscarriage brochure excerpt

It can be hard to know what to say to someone who has had a miscarriage and this not knowing how to respond can often leave you feeling awkward and the person who’s had the miscarriage, feeling unsupported or invalidated in their loss. Likewise, you can be so afraid of saying the wrong thing that you say nothing at all, which can come across as though you don’t care.

Of course if you haven’t experienced miscarriage or loss, it’s natural that it will be hard for you to know the ‘right’ thing to say. You want to be supportive, but genuinely do not know how to be. Depending on how early in the pregnancy the loss has taken place, you may not understand the emotional gravity of the feelings of your friend or family member. You may think it’s better to try to sweep it under the carpet or make light of it, so as not to unnecessarily upset her. Or you may simply just want to try to point out the ‘positives’ in an otherwise pretty crap situation.